Things have been pretty silent on this site for…oh I don’t know…over a year now. My life has been crazy. Fresh out of school I had dreams and ambitions about my future. I knew what I wanted and I knew how I was going to attain it.
Then a funny thing called life happened. Unfortunately I was so convinced that plan A was the one and only plan that I had no back up. My first clinic can be chalked up a failure at best, at least regarding profitability. In fact pretty much all of last year can be chalked up as a failure business and financially anyways. This year (2014) finds me in a situation where I am stable, learning, growing, and getting my feet planted.
However, out of this crucible I have learned many valuable life lessons I wish to share:
- Dreams don’t just happen no matter how positively you think about them. I knew my plans were so fool-proof that there wasn’t anyway I couldn’t succeed. I knew it. I KNEW it! If you know what I mean. Except that when push came to shove I was unwilling to do the things that needed to be done in order to succeed. When everything was on the line for my Boise clinic, I literally could not get myself to go out and actually talk to real people! Crazy right?! It’s something I’m very ashamed of. These days I still have trepidation when talking to people. I still haven’t mastered the art of networking events…but I have absolutely no problem going out and telling everyone about my awesome clinic!
- You can’t do this on your own. Starting out I thought I knew what I was doing, I quickly realized that I had no idea what in the world I was doing. I was so ashamed of myself that I couldn’t even seek advice from the doc who served as my mentor all throughout chiropractic school *that’s a nod in your direction Dr. Rob Watkins* I mean, here was a man who had/has vested so much in seeing me succeed and yet my shame, or my pride prevented me from reaching out to him when I needed it the most. Since that time I now have mentor(s) who direct me on the paths to go so that I don’t have to make the same mistakes they did, and it has made the world of difference!
- No man can serve two masters. Work/life balance is a delicate subject. There is nothing more that I love in this world than the love I have for my wife and two children. Yet, I would justify my inaction regarding my business in the name of my family. Don’t get me wrong; family=good. But there comes a point where; $0=poor/stressful family life. When I did set aside time to build/market my clinic, that time magically seemed to be taken up doing family stuff. Again not that that is a bad thing by any means, however I’ve come to learn that working, and providing for my family is one of the best ways I can show my love for them.
- As cliché as it sounds, I’ve learned that it is important to be yourself! Every position I have worked in, and interviewed for I had the belief that I could be a chameleon. I’ve learned that no matter how much you admire others, you can never be them. Nor should you desire to be them! I’ve discovered that I have a unique contribution to make in this world and I’m working on fulfilling that discovery!
Yes I’ve learned a lot of lessons this past year. I have been about as low as a person can humanly be. My family has suffered because they put their trust in me and I couldn’t deliver. This blog is no longer going to be just about chiropractic, but it is also going to be the story of life; professionally and personally. No I won’t be sharing funny kid stories, or what I had for lunch. I will share insights and distinctions that have helped me grow as a human being in the hopes that my human-ness can reach out and touch your human-ness and together we can grow in to better people!